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Empathy is a powerful tool that can help us connect with others and build strong relationships. However, when we take it too far and become overly empathetic, we can fall into what is known as the “empathy trap.” This trap can be disempowering, leading to feelings of burnout, resentment, and even physical and mental health problems.

Why Giving More is Not Actually Giving More

You call it ‘caring’, but when you don’t know your boundaries, it can lead to feelings of burnout and exhaustion. Especially if we constantly give of ourselves without taking time to recharge.

• It can create resentment as we may feel that others are not reciprocating the same level of care and support.
• It can lead to physical and mental health problems as we neglect our own well-being in the pursuit of helping others.
• It can create a codependent dynamic in which the other person becomes reliant on us and does not learn to take responsibility for their own emotions and actions.

As a coach of women who work in the Care industry, I have a few coaching tools to help you get out of the empathy trap:

1. Setting boundaries

It is important to set limits on how much time, energy, and resources we are willing to give to others. This can help us to prioritize our own needs and prevent burnout. To know what you need, I have a tool called the “Needs Creed” created by One of ManyTM. Send me a message from my contact page if you would like it!

2. Asking for help

Instead of shouldering all the responsibility ourselves, we can ask for help from friends, family, or a professional coach. There are positive and negative ways to ask for help. Obviously you will have more success with the positive approach – I can help you with that!

3. Managing overwhelm

We can learn to manage our emotions by developing healthy coping mechanisms, such as mindfulness practices, exercise, or coaching. There are short quick fixes such as the One of Many™ Overwhelm First Aid Kit, and more strategic approaches for sustainable ‘handling’ of your load.

Empathy is a powerful tool that can help us connect with others and build strong relationships, but when we fall into the empathy trap, it is the exact opposite – disempowering. By setting boundaries, asking for help, and managing overwhelm, we can learn to balance our need to help others with our own well-being and avoid falling into the trap of giving too much from an empty tank!

If you would like some of the tools I talk about in this article, I would love to connect with you via my contact page. Please feel free to ask for them in a message to me!

Thanks for reading my blog, as a carer for close to 20 years, and having experienced burnout, I have created a coaching program for women just like me. I love helping carers remain in the industry they love, by taking better care of themselves. Self care works, just ask me!